Your body is not a tragedy.
This is important. This is something you should know before we go any further. Speak it aloud if it helps. Write it down. Tell someone, “My body is not a tragedy.” Whatever else it might be, it is not tragic. Tragedy may befall it, or may have already done so, but your body is not the things that happen to it, the things that are forced upon it, or even its failures to perform to certain standards. Your body simply is. The tragedy is the effort required to build a loving relationship-or at least one of tacit acceptance-with your body. In a more perfect world, this connection would take place organically, but any such connection built in our early years is rapidly undone as we learn to criticize and dissociate from our bodies. Then we must spend our remaining years trying to rebuild that relationship.